How to act to look busy at work

November 27, 2011 by · Leave a Comment
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Non verbal communication can be used at your benefit at aswell. For example when your working, you can give people a whole other impression of yourself when you use your body language in the right way. If your having a bad day, or just wanna relax a bit from the daily stress, here are a few tips to give the idea to others that your very busy.

 

Make sure your desk is full.

People tend to keep their office desk clean. It sure looks nice when people enter your office and you got it clean and tidy. But if your desk would be full of books, papers and memo’s you give people a whole other impression. If your desk is full, it gives the idea that your very busy working on something.

And make sure the door of your office is open, so people can see your full desk. Read more

Signs that show personal relations

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There is alot of signs to see if two people have some kind of bond with each other. The easiest one to spot is the distance between the bodies of two people. When they sit, walk and / or stand close to each other, there is a big chance they have some kind of relation. They enter the personal space, which we know is mostly for close relations like intimates, children and family.

But it can be misleading aswell. We see other people often in crowded places, so and close proximity can be misleading in situations like this. Of when a young person is helping an old woman across the street, what can you tell about them? The change that they are, lets say lovers, is really small, but still they move close to one another. Or maybe they are just family. And there is two men who are walking close on the side of the street can be old friends or just one guy explaining the other guy (a complete stranger) the way to the nearest metro station. Read more

Territorial Behaviour part 3: the Personal Space

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We all carry it with us, everywhere we go. A portable territory called a Personal Space. It is the region surrounding a person which they regard as psychologically theirs. For every person this range is different. open, social people let people come physically closer then a, from nature more scary person. Most people value their personal space and feel discomfort, anger, or anxiety when their personal space is encroached. Those of us who have to spend a great deal of time in crowded conditions become gradually better able to adjust, but no one can ever become completely immune to invasions of the Personal Space.

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The science of flirting part 2

November 11, 2011 by · Leave a Comment
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Flirting is a nonverbal activity

Thanks to your body, you’ve come a long way: you’ve found someone you like and there are alot of types of substances raging through your body that make you feel good. But the real challenge is yet to come, because how can you show the other person how you feel about him or her? As mentioned before, the perfect opening line isnt helping you alot. The fact is that in your communication with others, only about 30% of the message is being communicated by spoken words (verbal communication). The remaining 70% of the message consists of nonverbal signals: body language.

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The science of flirting part 1

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The body has a dominant role in flirting.

With statements like ‘my heart beats faster when i see him or her’ and ‘i get butterflies in my stomach’ . Hormones and neurotransmitters put us on fire when we are in love, and body language appears crucial to hit on your new love.

Few people will say they are (were) not looking for the one true love. You also may have heard stories of those who almost tripped over their love of their life. Most of us are not as fortunate and need all the effort to get their future partner; the right clothes, the right scent and the right opening. Especially the latter receives much attention, as evidenced by the more than 57,000 hits that the word “opening” into Google yields. The number of hits to ‘pick up line’ goes over 45 million.

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A leader doesnt show that much bodylanguage

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How can you read bodylanguage and what gestures should you use to present yourself as a decisive leader?

What you say isnt that important, im sure you heard that before. Research in the sixties shows that communication is mostly about nonverbal communication, about 55%. 38% of the communication is about intonation, and only a small 7% is about the words that come out of your mouth. So the conclusion is that your speech can be very interesting, but if you send other signals with your body, the message wont arrive at the listeners.

Time to change

By learning bodylanguage, you can change small amounts of your presence, when you are in the company of others. Please dont expect big changes, but there are small victories to be made. One way to accomplish this, is throu NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. In three easy staps you can make a plan for youself:
1. observe the current situation, how do you behave in very specific situations?
2. Make sure what you want to change and create an image of you wishes and goals.
3. Go practise these goals and wishes in day to day situations.

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A silence can say alot

November 6, 2011 by · Leave a Comment
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When we have a conversation, sometimes a silence drops. And it always has a meaning, even when nothing is said. We can skip words and complete sentences and still know what isnt said.  So its not remarkable that there are alot of silences, and all with different meanings.

Every one knows that a conversation is more than a collection of words. The intonation, the speed of speaking and gestures made are a big part of our daily communcation as well. So if you compare this nonverbal communication with silences, they may not always be remarkable, or you dont notice them at all, but they are part of the conversation. Sometimes a silence can be a replacement for a whole sentence. Here is an example you might recognize:

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What colors tell about a person

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Colors are every where. And colors and emotions are closely connected with each other. So the colors a person uses in, for example, their clothing, send alot nonverbal signals about that person, and gives you loads of information, if you know how to read these non verbal signs. There are numerous researches about colors in the interiors of houses and buildings, but you can easily take this info and mirror it on people as wel. A small example: gothic people often wear black clothes, and its not without reason.

With this article i hope to give you a better insight for the colors around you and people using them. Thou the effect of colors is dependant of the age as wel: children and adults react different at the colors in their surroundings.

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