Territorial Behaviour part 3: the Personal Space

November 27, 2011 by · Comments Off on Territorial Behaviour part 3: the Personal Space
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We all carry it with us, everywhere we go. A portable territory called a Personal Space. It is the region surrounding a person which they regard as psychologically theirs. For every person this range is different. open, social people let people come physically closer then a, from nature more scary person. Most people value their personal space and feel discomfort, anger, or anxiety when their personal space is encroached. Those of us who have to spend a great deal of time in crowded conditions become gradually better able to adjust, but no one can ever become completely immune to invasions of the Personal Space.

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The science of flirting part 2

November 11, 2011 by · Comments Off on The science of flirting part 2
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Flirting is a nonverbal activity

Thanks to your body, you’ve come a long way: you’ve found someone you like and there are alot of types of substances raging through your body that make you feel good. But the real challenge is yet to come, because how can you show the other person how you feel about him or her? As mentioned before, the perfect opening line isnt helping you alot. The fact is that in your communication with others, only about 30% of the message is being communicated by spoken words (verbal communication). The remaining 70% of the message consists of nonverbal signals: body language.

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The science of flirting part 1

November 11, 2011 by · Comments Off on The science of flirting part 1
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The body has a dominant role in flirting.

With statements like ‘my heart beats faster when i see him or her’ and ‘i get butterflies in my stomach’ . Hormones and neurotransmitters put us on fire when we are in love, and body language appears crucial to hit on your new love.

Few people will say they are (were) not looking for the one true love. You also may have heard stories of those who almost tripped over their love of their life. Most of us are not as fortunate and need all the effort to get their future partner; the right clothes, the right scent and the right opening. Especially the latter receives much attention, as evidenced by the more than 57,000 hits that the word “opening” into Google yields. The number of hits to ‘pick up line’ goes over 45 million.

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A leader doesnt show that much bodylanguage

November 11, 2011 by · Comments Off on A leader doesnt show that much bodylanguage
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How can you read bodylanguage and what gestures should you use to present yourself as a decisive leader?

What you say isnt that important, im sure you heard that before. Research in the sixties shows that communication is mostly about nonverbal communication, about 55%. 38% of the communication is about intonation, and only a small 7% is about the words that come out of your mouth. So the conclusion is that your speech can be very interesting, but if you send other signals with your body, the message wont arrive at the listeners.

Time to change

By learning bodylanguage, you can change small amounts of your presence, when you are in the company of others. Please dont expect big changes, but there are small victories to be made. One way to accomplish this, is throu NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. In three easy staps you can make a plan for youself:
1. observe the current situation, how do you behave in very specific situations?
2. Make sure what you want to change and create an image of you wishes and goals.
3. Go practise these goals and wishes in day to day situations.

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A silence can say alot

November 6, 2011 by · Comments Off on A silence can say alot
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When we have a conversation, sometimes a silence drops. And it always has a meaning, even when nothing is said. We can skip words and complete sentences and still know what isnt said.  So its not remarkable that there are alot of silences, and all with different meanings.

Every one knows that a conversation is more than a collection of words. The intonation, the speed of speaking and gestures made are a big part of our daily communcation as well. So if you compare this nonverbal communication with silences, they may not always be remarkable, or you dont notice them at all, but they are part of the conversation. Sometimes a silence can be a replacement for a whole sentence. Here is an example you might recognize:

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What colors tell about a person

November 5, 2011 by · Comments Off on What colors tell about a person
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Colors are every where. And colors and emotions are closely connected with each other. So the colors a person uses in, for example, their clothing, send alot nonverbal signals about that person, and gives you loads of information, if you know how to read these non verbal signs. There are numerous researches about colors in the interiors of houses and buildings, but you can easily take this info and mirror it on people as wel. A small example: gothic people often wear black clothes, and its not without reason.

With this article i hope to give you a better insight for the colors around you and people using them. Thou the effect of colors is dependant of the age as wel: children and adults react different at the colors in their surroundings.

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Laughing and smiling in commercials

October 30, 2011 by · Comments Off on Laughing and smiling in commercials
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In commercials, you always see people laughing. This is done for a reason: the more a person smiles, the more atractive the person becomes, and the more attractive the product becomes that is presented in the commercial.

Smiling people sell better, thats an old saying in the creation of commercials. The faces on the covers on the magazines in the kiosks look with a laughing face at the costumers, trying to get their attention. A human face plus a laugh is an old sales trick. Even the classical music industry uses this rule. On cd covers of classical music cd’s and dvd’s we often see a singer or conductor smiling.

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The human laugh, an introduction

October 30, 2011 by · Comments Off on The human laugh, an introduction
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Laughing, what does it mean and why cant we do without it? If you look from a distance to people who are cheerful and observe their bodylanguage, then it takes notice that a laugh is a remarkable expression: the eyes become little wrinkles, the mouth opens up to become a huge whole. The shoulders move up and down and often laughing people bring their hands towards their faces. Apart from this, laughing gives us a good feeling, it works in a relaxing way, it lowers stress levels and it can even prevail that we get infections.

So in a nutshell: laughing is really healthy and it is liberating. Duchenne, a pioneer in facial expressions, calls the laugh the sweet emotion of the human soul.

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What is communication?

October 28, 2011 by · Comments Off on What is communication?
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Globally, you can speak of communication when some body tries to influence another person by transferring information. This happens amongst people aswel as animals. Lasswell has made a model to clarify communication.

lasswell communication model

He asks 5 questions to analyse the communication channel: Who? Says what? In which channel? To whom? With what effect? Shannon added two more concepts: encoding and decoding a message. Encoding means that the messenger sends his message in some kind of form. Usually its the spoken language, but it can be written or nonverbal as well.  Decoding means the opposite, the receiver translates the encoded message in a certain meaning (of the message). This looks as follows:

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A guy’s bodylanguage is harder to understand

October 23, 2011 by · Comments Off on A guy’s bodylanguage is harder to understand
Filed under: Behaviour 

As you may know, men arent too good in speaking about their feelings. Usually you can notice a (slight) difference in their behaviour, but its very hard to find out what its about. Especially when you got the idea that their is something on their mind, you ask for it and get the same answer over and over: ‘what do you mean, I feel fine, its nothing’. And I agree, men arent the easiest to be around with if you consider the ‘talk about feelings’ area. Therefor its a good thing we have body language to decypher what is going on in their minds, because bodylanguage reveals alot more then you would imagine.

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