Bodylanguage doesnt lie

October 20, 2011 by
Filed under: Learn bodylanguage 

Like mentioned before, roughly 60-93% of our communication is nonverbal. That is a very big amount of information given throu the body we can read. Much of this nonverbal information that is given throu the body is something that people are either unaware of or unable to control effectively. If you compare it with our spoken language, we control our speech relatively well, when it comes to saying the right things on the right occasion.

But our words may say one thing, our body often betray us when it comes to the right information. Everybody knows the example when you give some one a present. They might say that they love it, but you can see in their eyes or face that they dont mean it.
Part of the reason we’re unable to control our nonverbal communication is that it occurs across so many parts of the body. Unlike words, which provide information via their content and some of the qualities of the voice (such as the tone and speed), nonverbal communication involves the entire body – the face, eyes, body posture, the movement of the hands and so on. That is alot to manage at one time. Considering this, its not a surprise that people aren’t able to fake certain things nonverbally. There is so many area’s to control, feelings often leak out in several different parts of the body. That is the reason it is so hard to become good at reading body language, there is so much you need to watch to come to good conclusions.

 

Body language reveals if some one is interested

It doesnt matter what you are doing, its always a good indication to watch some ones body language to see if they are interested. When your giving a lecture of meeting somebody for the first time, body language gives you more information to understand the situation and if they are interested in what you are saying.

In professional settings, we generally do not express our likes or dislikes towards a person. But we do experience a multitude of feelings about the people who we work with. Generally its not done to express those feelings, but its revealed by how much we look at a person, how closely we sit or stand next to him and what expression is on our face when that some one is present.
If you can read the information that is given via body language, you can use that for your own advantage.

The feelings of like and dislike in work situations are an important source of information that can be used to one’s advantage. Some collegues are easier to work with then others, and if you know where the feeling comes from, you can use that in your own advantage.

Body language reveal emotions

Humans experience emotions on a regular basis. But generally we dont express them in obvious ways. Alot of your thoughts generate emotions, but most of the time you dont show them. At least not in a way that people can recognize them. But some one with a trained eye in body language may pick up these signals.

Because professional situations do not encourage displays of strong emotions, we learn to hide them. But still the emotions can leak out subtly on our faces through micro expressions and subtle expressions. Emotions also leak out through our eye behaviour, posture, orientation, gestures and other ways.

Knowing how some one else is feeling can be very useful when dealing with others. If you can read other people’s body language, you know when the other is experiencing some kind of emotion like irritation or happiness. When you can connect with these people emotionally, you will have a much greater bond as a result. And that’s part of establishing a successful relationship.

Non verbal communication can reveal the nature of a relationship

Body language can also reveal the kind of relationship that people have with the ones around them. Because people show how they feel about others, it becomes clear which individuals have strong relationships with one another.

Non verbal communication also reveals who has a higher status, who is respected, and who the leaders are in a group. You can tell whether someone is talking to their manager of a friend just by observing how they stand relative to each other, what types of expressions they show, how closely or far apart they stand, and who initiates the beginning and the end of the conversation. You can often tell these things without being able to hear the conversation.

Knowing the types of relationships people have with each other can help one manage new situations. Who likes and dislikes each other or to spot the alliances within a group. Knowing which people are allied can be very useful in terms of determining why certain decisions are being made.

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