Body language at your work

February 22, 2012 by · Comments Off on Body language at your work
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You can try it yourself. Say ‘no’ but nod ‘Yes’. Im sure you can do it, but it takes alot of effort. Body language and spoken language are two different languages. We speak and understand them both. The importance of body language for communication can hardly be underestimated. There are authors who argue that more than half of what is communicated is done through body language. There are authors who argue that at least 70 percent. It’s not about the number. Realize that your body is just as important as what you say and how you say it.

When you want to give your partner a positive feeling, you can tell him is that he’s a whopper. But its more effective to just look at him and smile or nod with interest what he says. Turn it around. There is nothing so destructive as when you tell someone a story and he or she gives no response to what you say. You are not fascinating enough. “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John’s responds with “Is there still coffee left in that can?” That hurts. You can almost feel it physically. Conversely: “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John reacts with “Tell me, what was it about?” and he turns his body towards Monty and gives him a warm smile. You can be sure, the next 5 assignments from monty are given to John. Read more

A leader doesnt show that much bodylanguage

November 11, 2011 by · Comments Off on A leader doesnt show that much bodylanguage
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How can you read bodylanguage and what gestures should you use to present yourself as a decisive leader?

What you say isnt that important, im sure you heard that before. Research in the sixties shows that communication is mostly about nonverbal communication, about 55%. 38% of the communication is about intonation, and only a small 7% is about the words that come out of your mouth. So the conclusion is that your speech can be very interesting, but if you send other signals with your body, the message wont arrive at the listeners.

Time to change

By learning bodylanguage, you can change small amounts of your presence, when you are in the company of others. Please dont expect big changes, but there are small victories to be made. One way to accomplish this, is throu NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming. In three easy staps you can make a plan for youself:
1. observe the current situation, how do you behave in very specific situations?
2. Make sure what you want to change and create an image of you wishes and goals.
3. Go practise these goals and wishes in day to day situations.

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What colors tell about a person

November 5, 2011 by · Comments Off on What colors tell about a person
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Colors are every where. And colors and emotions are closely connected with each other. So the colors a person uses in, for example, their clothing, send alot nonverbal signals about that person, and gives you loads of information, if you know how to read these non verbal signs. There are numerous researches about colors in the interiors of houses and buildings, but you can easily take this info and mirror it on people as wel. A small example: gothic people often wear black clothes, and its not without reason.

With this article i hope to give you a better insight for the colors around you and people using them. Thou the effect of colors is dependant of the age as wel: children and adults react different at the colors in their surroundings.

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Nonverbal communication reveals more then you think

October 23, 2011 by · Comments Off on Nonverbal communication reveals more then you think
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Usually, we dont cry at our desks at work, run down the halls in happiness or punch collegues who frustrate us. We live in a culture that doesnt encourage tremendous emotional displays, especially in the work space. The rules of expression in a culture are called cultural display rules, and they vary depending on the emotion, the person expressing it and the situation.

Because we dont always feel internally what the cultural display rules dictate, our nonverbal behaviour can reveal feelings that we wish to conceal. We may not be actually sad at a funeral or happy at a wedding, but the nonverbal communication can reveal how we really feel.

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Learn body language by observing others

October 20, 2011 by · Comments Off on Learn body language by observing others
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The technique involves observing other people’s body language to notice what works and why it works – as well as what doesn’t work and why it doesn’t work. You can do this exercise right now thanks to the Internet. Go on YouTube and find a video of someone who you look up to and who is notably famous. Don’t get distracted by watching the plethora of available videos! Do the exercise!

If you have found a video of this person you are after, turn all sound off, watch the video, and observe his or her body language. Take note of what makes the person interesting. What is good about their body language?

Once you’ve watched a video of a person you like, find a video of an everyday person. Again, watch this video with the sound off. Observe this person’s body language and compare the difference to the body language of the person you admire. It is not guaranteed, but the person who is notably more successful will appear more interesting than the everyday person due to their differences in body language. Ask yourself what parts of their body language could be improved. Begin using the body language lessons you have learned.

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Bodylanguage doesnt lie

October 20, 2011 by · Comments Off on Bodylanguage doesnt lie
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Like mentioned before, roughly 60-93% of our communication is nonverbal. That is a very big amount of information given throu the body we can read. Much of this nonverbal information that is given throu the body is something that people are either unaware of or unable to control effectively. If you compare it with our spoken language, we control our speech relatively well, when it comes to saying the right things on the right occasion.

But our words may say one thing, our body often betray us when it comes to the right information. Everybody knows the example when you give some one a present. They might say that they love it, but you can see in their eyes or face that they dont mean it.
Part of the reason we’re unable to control our nonverbal communication is that it occurs across so many parts of the body. Unlike words, which provide information via their content and some of the qualities of the voice (such as the tone and speed), nonverbal communication involves the entire body – the face, eyes, body posture, the movement of the hands and so on. That is alot to manage at one time. Considering this, its not a surprise that people aren’t able to fake certain things nonverbally. There is so many area’s to control, feelings often leak out in several different parts of the body. That is the reason it is so hard to become good at reading body language, there is so much you need to watch to come to good conclusions.

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The relation between animal and human communication

August 23, 2011 by · Comments Off on The relation between animal and human communication
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If you want to learn to read bodylanguage, observing animals is a good starting point. Humans and animals are much alike when it comes to subjects like territorial behaviour and behaviour in groups. Many of the insights into nonverbal communication have come from experiments and studying of animals. A type of animal behaviour that has long been termed instinctive is the fighting of dogs. When two male dogs meet they may react in a number of ways, but the most common is the snarling, snapping simulation of a fight to the death.

A person new to this behaviour will be alarmed and tries to seperate the dogs. The knowing dog owner simply watches, realizing how much of the fight is symbolic. This doesnt mean the fight isnt real, on the contrary, the dogs are competing for mastery. One will win, because he is more aggressive, perhaps stronger and with harder drives than the other. The fight is over at the point when both dogs realize that one is the victor, though no skin has been broken. Then a curious thing happens: the vanquished dog lies down, rolls over and exposes his throat to the victor.

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Different intonations of the voice

August 23, 2011 by · Comments Off on Different intonations of the voice
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Often we dont actively listen or notice the tone of a person’s voice, but it has become so common, that we pay little attention to it. We are used that a person yells when he is mad, and talks softly when he is ashamed. With the intonation of your voice you can give a spoken message more strenght, or the opposite, weaken it down.

When you want to learn to read bodylanguage, there are alot of factors you can use to come to a better judgement. Ok, the tone of the voice is verbal meaning you can hear it, but the purpose the tone serves, is often not discussed or mentioned, and therefor you can call it nonverbal as wel.

There are alot of ways you can use your voice, this can be a very good indicator and helps alot to read and understand certain social situations.

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The intonation of a voice tells alot about a person

June 23, 2011 by · Comments Off on The intonation of a voice tells alot about a person
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The tone or intonation of your voice is an important part of the body language. Not the words your pronounce, but the way you do it can tell alot about some one’s personality. And like body language, alot of people arent aware that their voice gives away alot of information.

Can you judge a person only by hearing their voice?

You all know the example of hearing a person for the first time on the telephone. Automatically you make an image of that person in your head, based on the voice you hear. If the person is a fast talker, then you see that person as self confident, because he isnt afraid to speak and knows to articulate well. Opposite of that is a person you really need to focus to hear them well, because they speak with a soft voice. In this case the person gives a shy, maybe scared impression.

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What is bodylanguage?

May 17, 2011 by · Comments Off on What is bodylanguage?
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Bodylanguage, is that something i can learn?

Bodylanguage is a hot item nowadays. In movies, series and books, but also in the dating field nonverbal communication is used on a very regular basis, but most people dont even recognize it. Thou bodylanguage (or nonverbal communication) is used more then verbal communication and its universal, meaning the nonverbal signs used in Europe are roughly the same as the bodylanguage used in, for example, China. A smile is a smile and a laugh is a laugh, and it means the same in Tokio as in Washington or Berlin.

But what is bodylanguage?

It is all about one thing: trying or learning to ‘read’ people and their behaviour.

Ofcourse you can learn to read and recognize bodylanguage, but its more then just a ten point checklist!

There are so many things you can take into account when you try to read a person’s bodylanguage, like the differences between men and women. For people you just meet it is alot harder to understand their body language, and its much dependent on the context you meet some one in. When people are in groups and communicate with each other, there is alot more to discover about the people then just the gestures they make or the way they stand or hold their arms.

And that is why is so much fun to learn to read bodylanguage. There is always something new to discover, new researches, new information and new insights. And there a re many fields where you can get information about bodylanguage, like psychology, pedagogy and phrenology. And all of these fields relate, so all the knowledge you gain in a subject can help you to understand bodylanguage better.

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