Nonverbal communication reveals more then you think

October 23, 2011 by
Filed under: Learn bodylanguage 

Usually, we dont cry at our desks at work, run down the halls in happiness or punch collegues who frustrate us. We live in a culture that doesnt encourage tremendous emotional displays, especially in the work space. The rules of expression in a culture are called cultural display rules, and they vary depending on the emotion, the person expressing it and the situation.

Because we dont always feel internally what the cultural display rules dictate, our nonverbal behaviour can reveal feelings that we wish to conceal. We may not be actually sad at a funeral or happy at a wedding, but the nonverbal communication can reveal how we really feel.

Nonverbal communication is also one of the best sources for telling that someone is lying. One of the classic studies in this area videotaped people telling truths and lies. The videotapes were then shown to other groups of people to see if they could discover who was lying. Each group looked or listened for a specific thing. One group looked at the faces, one group looked at their bodies, another group just listened to their voices and the last group just read what the people in the video said.

The group who looked at the bodies were the most accurate to determine who was lying. Another way to tell if someone is lying, is to look at the entire body including the face. If there are inconsistencies in what is shown on the face and what is displayed elsewhere, it is likely that the person is being deceitful.

Body language can show emotions we dont even admit ourselves

One aspect of emotional intelligence is about reading our own emotions, and sometimes we aren’t too good at it. People often dont even know what they feel. Everybody knows the example when you feel uneasy, or not comfortable, and you dont know why.

When you can ready body language, especially in reaction to different people and situations, it can give us insight into someone. Even more then the person knows about himself.

Some basic rules:

– people tend to sit or stand more closely to those they like, those they’ re more interested in, and those peolpe they want to get to know.

– people also tend to face more directly to those they like, those they want to get to know, and those they are interested in.


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