Getting rid of weak bodylanguage
We’ve all met someone who displays weak body language. He’s the guy who communicates the wrong message around women. This is someone who you meet and intuitively know that he’s not very good with women. He doesn’t have to say a word, but you’re already convinced that the ladies are not knocking down his door to date him. It’s not what he says, it’s how he acts!
On some level, you’ve picked up on his body language and gotten an uncomfortable vibe from being around him. In essence, his non-verbal communication is telling you that he does NOT have the confidence to attract many women.
We’re all different in how we display body language. Some can command a powerful presence. Others display the weak aura that’s naturally repulsive to a woman.
One of the things that I am asked frequently is: “How do I read female body language?”
“How can I tell if she’s ‘into’ me?”
First of all, before I give you the inside detail on reading this area of physiology, I want to caution you that if you’re spending a lot of time “reading” into a woman’s appearance rather than creating the vibe of the interaction, you’re probably focusing on the wrong areas.
If a woman is interested in you, you should be able to figure this out by her overall interest in the conversation. If she is still there chatting with you, she’s at least a little interested.
Just don’t get caught up in the trap of interpreting female body language more than you try to CREATE the attraction proactively. Your role as an Alpha Man is to take control of the interaction and lead it where it needs to go.
Now, if you’re in the conversation with a woman, but you’re still a bit unclear about her interest level in you, or wondering if she’s just be trying to be polite, here are some things to watch for in female body language. Read more
The most basic and rewarding concept you can grasp is body language. This is the essence of the human world. It is how humans speaking two totally different languages can communicate. Body Language is Universal and can be used anywhere there is another human being.
So why body language is important to you and how you can use it. You can know everything that a woman is saying without saying a single word.
Yes body language is that perfect. You can literally have a full-blown conversation with someone without knowing. You pick up other humans body language without even knowing it. Your subconscious mind or shall we say your not yet fined tuned mind picks it up and uses it appropriately. Your goal that you are trying to get out of this Chapter is how to read and react to the signals that women are giving off.
Dominant, very high intelligence and often introverted. The man with the sudden ideas. ‘Implanted’ in quiet teams to generate creativity: he makes the new openings. A Plant calls resistances due to lack of practical sense and his critical attitude towards ‘stupidity’.
The Plant is the innovator, the inventor. The creative thinker, whose ideas and alternatives are distinguished by originality and imagination. He is looking for space to fantasize, to develop strategies and scenarios for the future design and constantly surprising new solutions to old problems. Read more
A team is not a random bunch of people with different functions, but a group of people, each with its own role that is clear for the other team members. Team members consciously seek certain roles and they function optimally in the role that fits their naturally best.
If you learn how to ‘read’ the team roles people have, its a lot easier to interpret the nonverbal signals they send. Read more
You can try it yourself. Say ‘no’ but nod ‘Yes’. Im sure you can do it, but it takes alot of effort. Body language and spoken language are two different languages. We speak and understand them both. The importance of body language for communication can hardly be underestimated. There are authors who argue that more than half of what is communicated is done through body language. There are authors who argue that at least 70 percent. It’s not about the number. Realize that your body is just as important as what you say and how you say it.
When you want to give your partner a positive feeling, you can tell him is that he’s a whopper. But its more effective to just look at him and smile or nod with interest what he says. Turn it around. There is nothing so destructive as when you tell someone a story and he or she gives no response to what you say. You are not fascinating enough. “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John’s responds with “Is there still coffee left in that can?” That hurts. You can almost feel it physically. Conversely: “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John reacts with “Tell me, what was it about?” and he turns his body towards Monty and gives him a warm smile. You can be sure, the next 5 assignments from monty are given to John. Read more
Attention to the first impression
You know: the first impression you make only once and usually its nonverbal, its about the impression you give of yourself. And that first impression is most important. The first impression determines whether someone will go with you. Its that easy. In a second or two, people form a picture of the other allowing them to decide whether the other is “worthwhile”.
The spotlight on you
This means that you really have to think about that first impression you make on people. What kind of clothes do you wear, how do you stand, how do you walk and how do you give people a hand? You don’t have to wear Armani suits to radiate success. This is mostly a matter of clothes that fit you well and give a certain flair. But if you’re far too thick, wear an old sweater that needs a washand wear a trouser that is a few sizes too large, you wont win people’s favors immediatelly. In other words: make sure your appearance fits your surroundings. And if you feel that wearing a tie doesnt fit you well, you might consider the question of whether you chose the right work environment. Read more
She flirts with you
Presumably, a woman is still single when she flirts with you or answers your flirts. Therefore it is important for a man to flirt with many women, it’s the first check! Obviously, with only this single signal check, her relation status is still uncertain, because women in a relationship also entail an exciting flirtation.
In fact, my experience is that enough women in a relationship like flirting with other men. And not because they want to have a secret lover or because they are unhappy with the relationship.
So why do these women actually flirt? The love relationship they currently have, gives them a sense of security and non-commitment, which makes it more comfortable to flirt. After all, they have an obvious excuse to retreat: “Sorry, I already have a partner”.
Nevertheless, your succesful flirt with a woman can be seen as a signal that they are probably open to a romance. Read more
Non verbal communication can be used at your benefit at aswell. For example when your working, you can give people a whole other impression of yourself when you use your body language in the right way. If your having a bad day, or just wanna relax a bit from the daily stress, here are a few tips to give the idea to others that your very busy.
Make sure your desk is full.
People tend to keep their office desk clean. It sure looks nice when people enter your office and you got it clean and tidy. But if your desk would be full of books, papers and memo’s you give people a whole other impression. If your desk is full, it gives the idea that your very busy working on something.
And make sure the door of your office is open, so people can see your full desk. Read more
There is alot of signs to see if two people have some kind of bond with each other. The easiest one to spot is the distance between the bodies of two people. When they sit, walk and / or stand close to each other, there is a big chance they have some kind of relation. They enter the personal space, which we know is mostly for close relations like intimates, children and family.
But it can be misleading aswell. We see other people often in crowded places, so and close proximity can be misleading in situations like this. Of when a young person is helping an old woman across the street, what can you tell about them? The change that they are, lets say lovers, is really small, but still they move close to one another. Or maybe they are just family. And there is two men who are walking close on the side of the street can be old friends or just one guy explaining the other guy (a complete stranger) the way to the nearest metro station. Read more