You might be wondering how you can get started with improving your non-verbal communication. That’s why in this section we’re going to cover the three major areas where I see many guys make mistakes. If you have trouble with demonstrating a high status personality, then I recommend you first work on these areas. You’ll find that making a few simple adjustments can have an immediate improvement to the signals thatyou’re sending women… Read more
A lot times, it’s not the words you say that’s attractive to women. It’s how you say them. A man with a confident and powerful voice can be very seductive a woman. Someone like this doesn’t even really to say that much. With just that sound of voice, he can easily attract women.
The way you speak to a woman can often determine your success. Developing a powerful voice can be an incredible way to demonstrate a naturally attractive vibe. When a woman is turned on by how you say stuff, you won’t have to work as hard at thinking of stuff to talk about. As a result, it’s important to work on your speech, and develop a good intonation.
In order to develop this behavior, here are four areas that you need to concentrate on :
The most basic and rewarding concept you can grasp is body language. This is the essence of the human world. It is how humans speaking two totally different languages can communicate. Body Language is Universal and can be used anywhere there is another human being.
So why body language is important to you and how you can use it. You can know everything that a woman is saying without saying a single word.
Yes body language is that perfect. You can literally have a full-blown conversation with someone without knowing. You pick up other humans body language without even knowing it. Your subconscious mind or shall we say your not yet fined tuned mind picks it up and uses it appropriately. Your goal that you are trying to get out of this Chapter is how to read and react to the signals that women are giving off.
You can try it yourself. Say ‘no’ but nod ‘Yes’. Im sure you can do it, but it takes alot of effort. Body language and spoken language are two different languages. We speak and understand them both. The importance of body language for communication can hardly be underestimated. There are authors who argue that more than half of what is communicated is done through body language. There are authors who argue that at least 70 percent. It’s not about the number. Realize that your body is just as important as what you say and how you say it.
When you want to give your partner a positive feeling, you can tell him is that he’s a whopper. But its more effective to just look at him and smile or nod with interest what he says. Turn it around. There is nothing so destructive as when you tell someone a story and he or she gives no response to what you say. You are not fascinating enough. “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John’s responds with “Is there still coffee left in that can?” That hurts. You can almost feel it physically. Conversely: “Yesterday I was at a fun workshop …” Monty says. John reacts with “Tell me, what was it about?” and he turns his body towards Monty and gives him a warm smile. You can be sure, the next 5 assignments from monty are given to John. Read more
Attention to the first impression
You know: the first impression you make only once and usually its nonverbal, its about the impression you give of yourself. And that first impression is most important. The first impression determines whether someone will go with you. Its that easy. In a second or two, people form a picture of the other allowing them to decide whether the other is “worthwhile”.
The spotlight on you
This means that you really have to think about that first impression you make on people. What kind of clothes do you wear, how do you stand, how do you walk and how do you give people a hand? You don’t have to wear Armani suits to radiate success. This is mostly a matter of clothes that fit you well and give a certain flair. But if you’re far too thick, wear an old sweater that needs a washand wear a trouser that is a few sizes too large, you wont win people’s favors immediatelly. In other words: make sure your appearance fits your surroundings. And if you feel that wearing a tie doesnt fit you well, you might consider the question of whether you chose the right work environment. Read more
We all carry it with us, everywhere we go. A portable territory called a Personal Space. It is the region surrounding a person which they regard as psychologically theirs. For every person this range is different. open, social people let people come physically closer then a, from nature more scary person. Most people value their personal space and feel discomfort, anger, or anxiety when their personal space is encroached. Those of us who have to spend a great deal of time in crowded conditions become gradually better able to adjust, but no one can ever become completely immune to invasions of the Personal Space.
Flirting is a nonverbal activity
Thanks to your body, you’ve come a long way: you’ve found someone you like and there are alot of types of substances raging through your body that make you feel good. But the real challenge is yet to come, because how can you show the other person how you feel about him or her? As mentioned before, the perfect opening line isnt helping you alot. The fact is that in your communication with others, only about 30% of the message is being communicated by spoken words (verbal communication). The remaining 70% of the message consists of nonverbal signals: body language.
When we have a conversation, sometimes a silence drops. And it always has a meaning, even when nothing is said. We can skip words and complete sentences and still know what isnt said. So its not remarkable that there are alot of silences, and all with different meanings.
Every one knows that a conversation is more than a collection of words. The intonation, the speed of speaking and gestures made are a big part of our daily communcation as well. So if you compare this nonverbal communication with silences, they may not always be remarkable, or you dont notice them at all, but they are part of the conversation. Sometimes a silence can be a replacement for a whole sentence. Here is an example you might recognize:
In commercials, you always see people laughing. This is done for a reason: the more a person smiles, the more atractive the person becomes, and the more attractive the product becomes that is presented in the commercial.
Smiling people sell better, thats an old saying in the creation of commercials. The faces on the covers on the magazines in the kiosks look with a laughing face at the costumers, trying to get their attention. A human face plus a laugh is an old sales trick. Even the classical music industry uses this rule. On cd covers of classical music cd’s and dvd’s we often see a singer or conductor smiling.
Laughing, what does it mean and why cant we do without it? If you look from a distance to people who are cheerful and observe their bodylanguage, then it takes notice that a laugh is a remarkable expression: the eyes become little wrinkles, the mouth opens up to become a huge whole. The shoulders move up and down and often laughing people bring their hands towards their faces. Apart from this, laughing gives us a good feeling, it works in a relaxing way, it lowers stress levels and it can even prevail that we get infections.
So in a nutshell: laughing is really healthy and it is liberating. Duchenne, a pioneer in facial expressions, calls the laugh the sweet emotion of the human soul.